June 12, 2017

May 2017, Things to Celebrate

May is my birthday month, and it also marks two full years
I've been here at the house. 
It's really a great month for a celebration. 
So. . .  Roses, why not?

There are five bushes, white in the center, pink on each side, red on the east end and you can barely see the beautiful yellow on the far end by the deck.  My friend Lawrence planted them all in the summer of 2015, so they're in their second year and blooming beautifully.

This is my backyard.  It's a very active area. 
Squirrels, rabbits, a single groundhog,
occasionally deer, a large variety of birds.

And this year something really unique happened. 
Owls, not a good photo shoot but definitely owls. 
They visited late at dusk every evening for about three weeks. 
Then   . . .  well . . . I still watch for them.





 I guess you might say I did some serious bird watching in May. 
To celebrate my birthday, special friends Clara and Sara rode to Kentucky with me. 
Sara had some inside info on an eagle's nest that was especially visible
and info that there were baby eagles. 
So we found the spot. 
Honestly, it was a birthday gift just to be that close to an eagle's nest,
let alone to be able to just look up and see the young eagles. 
They were no longer babies, but had not gotten their color changes yet or left the nest. 
So here's some of what we saw. 
Enjoy!  I sure did. . . .



And perched aloft in a neighboring tree, a proud parent.

And this is my local guy out at Pigeon Creek at Crab Orchard National Wildlife Refuge center.


And the old grey haired guy at Wolf Creek Causeway. 
He's always hanging out there. 
Waits for someone to throw him a fish.  Yeah !

 
And back home at Herrin City Park, we got the baby geese. 


Honestly, who doesn't love the  month of MAY !

Doris Frey © 2017

April 21, 2017

APRIL NATIONAL POETRY MONTH 2017

APRIL is NATIONAL POETRY MONTH
 
 
ISPS Illinois State Poetry Society chose the theme of "Travel" for the Poetry Displays through Illinois libraries.
 
The Southern Chapter of ISPS meets monthly at the Carbondale Public Library.  I attend that chapter and participated in the "Travel" theme.
 
This is my "Travel' poem.
 
 


       THE EXIT SIGN


 
I was barreling down Life’s highway

In the fast lane,

When I saw you,

Standing there under that big 

Green highway sign,
 
“Paradise, this exit.”
 By Doris Ann Grant Frey  © 2017

 
 
 
 
I chose the Alaska photo from Gary's collection
because he was the reason I wrote it!
 
These photos are from the display at the
Carbondale Public Library all of April.
 

 
 
 
 
 

 
 
 
The week of April 16 - 22 is Cowboy Poetry Week,
so I shared my Cowboy poems.
 
 
 
This is my post on the ISPS website for April.
 
AND I actually wrote a new one for April 2017
Poetry Celebration.
 
 
 
 
The Herrin City Library had a project to write a poem using word clips in a cardboard box.  Various words and phrases cut from magazines, paper etc.  So I got brave and pieced together a poem.  Strange for me because I usually 'piece' together some patches of fabric for a quilt.  So we'll see.
 
 
So next came an Haiku effort from a trip to the Crab Orchard Refuge, but it seemed so appropriate to piece it onto a loved happy quilt.  See what you think.
 
 
 
 
And my prayer poem for April:

Prayer for April
Dear Lord,
When I think about your grace,
I must make time to seek your face.
I need the shelter of your love.

And when I feel your warm embrace
And sense the joy in this special place
I know the shelter of your love.
Thank you, Heavenly Father !
 
Doris Frey © 2017

 
 


April 05, 2017

March 2017 Memories of Richard Stauder




Richard L. Stauder
Nov 17, 1945 - Mar 10, 2017 
 
Richard's Story
INDIANOLA - Richard L. Stauder, 71, of Indianola, passed away at 8:02 p.m. Friday, March 10, 2017, at the Decatur Memorial Hospital, Decatur.
Richard was born Nov. 17, 1945, in Herrin, to John R. and Mary E. Newton Stauder. Surviving are: one son, Jonathan M. Stauder of Indianola; one brother, Bob E. (Lois) Stauder of Tulsa, Okla.; and one sister, Joyce Ann Rinella of Paducah, Ky. He was preceded in death by his parents.
Richard was a biology, English, and French teacher at Jamaica High School for 25 years. He liked to exhibit poultry. He loved to breed dogs and go to dog shows. He was especially proud of his pure bred miniature Pinschers. He enjoyed horseback riding and traveling.
Funeral services: 10 a.m. Thursday, March 16, 2017, at St. Nicholas Antiochian Orthodox Church, 312 West Elm Street, Urbana, IL with Father James Ellison officiating. Burial to follow in Herrin City Cemetery, Herrin. Memorials to the church. Robison Chapel, Catlin, is handling the arrangements. Online condolences at www.robisonchapel.com.
Published on  March 11, 2017 in Commercial News
RICHARD 
Some days just don’t turn out like you expect.  I was going to play the piano for our chapel service at the nursing home.  First time I’ve been for quite a while.  I had some medical issues, a long winter and there was a new lady who played the piano.   She seemed to be enjoying it so I backed off to let her have the blessing.  Now she has moved on, so I’m trying to resume the blessing.  I love playing along with four guys on guitars, love the awesome feeling to be a part of a group playing our Lord’s music.
An old friend from high school has died.  We’ve not been in touch much since graduation, just a message here and there.  But he was special.  He was one of those unique totally memorable personalities.  Many thoughts of him have invaded my mind since I learned of his death.  His funeral was this morning in Urbana.  They were bringing him to be buried at Herrin City Cemetery.  Graveside service was to be around 3 p.m. and a mutual friend Rev. Ralph Brandon was to speak.  I was supposed to be at the chapel service at 2 p.m.  Since it was my first time back at the nursing home I hated to cancel.  I hoped to be out of the nursing home service and back over to the graveyard at least before the graveside service was over.  I don’t walk good on uneven/dirt/grass anyway so I planned to stay in the van, roll down the window and watch and listen from wherever I could park.
My memories of Richard begin as a freshman at Herrin Township High School.  We shared many classes and common interests.  Love of biology found him in the high school green house after school, waiting for the bus.  My Uncle Frank lived behind Richard’s folks in Energy and I occasionally visited both.  Richard had a chicken coop and rabbits and other ‘pets’ as well.  He loved horses too.  I rode Uncle Frank’s horse Flicka one day but that’s another story.  I know some thought of Richard and me as a couple but it never really got that far.  We were good friends and he was a fun guy.  One time Ralph invited me to go with his Sunday School class on a picnic.  It was at Fern Cliff and when we got there it was a pretty nice gang, including Richard.  Lots of fun, but more remarkable when Richard (already near six feet tall) climbed up on top of a picnic table and announced that he was running for the position of dog catcher for Johnson County.  Of course, we clapped and laughed.  That was Richard. 
 
 
Richard, Doris and Ralph
 
Our senior year, it was time for prom.  I hoped he would ask me.  I so wanted to go with him in a suit and me in a formal.  I waited and waited.  Finally one day he said, “Doriska, (that was my Russian nickname from Richard) know what we should do while everyone else is at the prom?”  So I answered, “What?”  He said that we should get our graduation caps and gowns early, put them on and parade up and down Park Avenue that evening.  That was Richard, funny guy.
After we graduated he finally asked me for a date.  We went to a show and he brought me home.  I was standing on the first step at our back door, he was on the ground.  So at this point our heads were level.  He leaned in and kissed me.  Immediately, he straightened up and abruptly turned and ran to the door of his truck.  He fell into the front sprawled across the seats and his feet hanging out.  I watched him for a while, then gave up and went inside.  Eventually, he recovered, got up and left.  Pretty much, that was Richard.  We both left for school in the fall and lost contact for years to come.
I got to the cemetery about 3:30 p.m.  The grave crew was already filling in his grave.  I was able to park as close as possible to watch.  I stayed until the last pile of dirt was leveled and carefully pressed down on his grave.  The grave crew worked so diligently.  The hearse driver and the Orthodox Father stood by throughout the burial process.  It intrigued me as I sat in the van, waiting, wishing I’d been more present in his life.  I’m glad his burial plot is at the edge of the cemetery, close to the trees and bushes of the woods nearby.  He loved nature, living things, biology.  When the grave crew pulled out all the tools and cleared the area, Father James bowed his head.  He took out the Holy Water and carefully poured it in the form of a cross on Richard’s grave.  He crossed himself and made a final prayer.  I watched from the van as he turned and came toward his car.  I moved my van so the hearse could begin to make its way back to Urbana.  I pulled over by the Father’s car hoping to have a word.
He walked over and stood at my window.  I introduced myself as did he.  Conversation moved easily, both of us comfortable with fond memories and thoughts of Richard.  I reminisced about a teenage boy who was so much fun.  Father James describes an adult man, dedicated teacher, lover of nature, caretaker of animals and special dog breeder.  He talked softly about a man who never married, said he had a serious relationship but it had gone bad.  He tells me that Richard had rescued two young boys, the first his family had abandoned.  He pulled the second boy from another bad situation.  He says that all Richard wanted was for them to grow and to love each other.  He described the man who joined the St. Nicholas Antiochian Orthodox Church.  He said Richard had chosen ‘Nicholas’ as his own Russian name.  He said Richard loved people, always asking folks to visit and enjoyed being in a group.  I asked Father James about Richard’s last days.  He described a sad downhill journey of Parkinson’s and depression, and finally loss of contact with life as we know it. 
We can’t turn back the hands of time.  Typically we only learn from life what we choose, but sometimes things just pop up and stare you in the face and then we wish.  I wish I’d spend less time just laughing at and with our Richard and more time getting to know the real guy inside.  I think he was pretty special. 
Doris Grant Frey © March 16, 2017

February 18, 2017

Valentine's Day Feb 2017

I was really spoiled on Valentine's Day.  Gary could find the most beautiful cards, and the prettiest flowers and of course, a huge heart shaped box of candy.  He did that every year.  I was pampered and just plain spoiled.  So this year I want to pay a tribute to him, that precious red-headed cowboy who taught me about love.



 Some time ago I was telling one of the young waitresses about my cowboy and she asked if I had a photo.  Well, not with me, can you believe that, a phone with no picture on it and a wallet with no photo in it.  So for Valentine's Day supper I decided to go to Chuck's BBQ in Herrin, Illinois. I decided to take Gary with me and let the girls meet my guy.


I propped us up by the salt shaker and proceeded to show everyone my guy, Gary Frey.  You know what, I had a really nice time with that red headed cowboy.  Somehow it just seemed he was right there.

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY
I HOPE YOU HAVE JUST ONE SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU SO SPECIAL!

My poem on the Illinois State Poet's Society website for February:

January 01, 2017

Happy New Year 2017




Sunday
January 1, 2017
Herrin, Illinois
 
I have a friend who sketches and paints lovely pictures. 
I can paint pictures too, but only with words. 
I saw one this morning on the way to church. 
I think it deserves painting (writing).
 

Pogo Sticks and Boots

 
I’m driving east on Stotlar still in town. 
On the north side of the street in the back yard
of a house on the corner are a couple of kids. 

The boy’s the younger, maybe four or five. 
The girl’s a little older, your guess is as good as mine.

He’s on a pogo stick.  Jumping up and down, bouncing back and forth on the sidewalk. 
Pretty happy with himself, I’d say, as he’s smiling a lot, not much talk.

She’s prancing about in the dead grass with knee high fur wrapped boots for snow. 
A dancing model of a pretty and happy girl, all dressed up with dreams to go.

And up on the top step, standing at the back door, there’s a Dad.
Watching them both, hands in his pockets, obviously solemnly glad.

Now here’s the thing.  It’s Jan 1, 2017 and we live in a world that is dependent on and possibly totally dominated by technology. 
 
But the little guy is bouncing.                       The little girl is prancing. 
And Dad does not have a cigarette or a piece of handheld tech anywhere about him.

 I think it’s a pretty good picture.

 

January 2016 © Doris Grant Frey

December 30, 2014

When God Made Music

Merry Christmas from the Iris Garden


When God made music:  Genesis chapter 1

20 And God said, Let the waters bring forth abundantly the moving creature that hath life, and fowl that may fly above the earth in the open firmament of heaven.
21 And God created great whales, and every living creature that moveth, which the waters brought forth abundantly, after their kind, and every winged fowl after his kind: and God saw that it was good.
22 And God blessed them, saying, Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let fowl multiply in the earth.
23 And the evening and the morning were the fifth day.


Then on the fifth day, there were whale songs and bird songs and lots of other bleeps and chirps and clicking, melodies and rhythm, all glorious sounds on the planet earth.

I don’t know.  He doesn’t look like much of a musician to me.


Hey, but there’s proof:

Whale sheet music @ hmmc.org




What’s your favorite bird song?  I think mine is the sparrow. 


In December of 1952, Mom married Lloyd Bandy.  We moved from Gramma’s house in Fudgetown to Bandyville.  I was six and a half year old and changed schools from Ferges to Bandyville at Christmas time in the first grade.  They wouldn’t let me start school the year before because I wouldn’t be six until May, time for school to be out.  The neatest thing about Pop’s house was an old upright piano.  I loved to plink on the keys and make sounds come out.  It was the neatest thing, black and white keys that produced pretty musical sounds.  (Nothing like that at Gramma’s, although I was slightly aware of the piano at Ferges Free Methodist Church.)
  
I never got a picture of that old upright, but this pretty much looks like it.  Tall, very tall.



Fairly soon, after we moved in, the piano got moved out.  At six years old, I didn’t understand. 

There was another old upright piano in the big room at Bandyville School.  Bandyville School had two rooms:  the little room, grades 1-4 and the big room, grades 5-8.  There were three huge sliding doors that separated the big room from the little room.  Bandyville School had two teachers, Mrs. Alma Sanders in the little room and Mrs. Estelle Travelstead in the big room.  If either one was sick or out for the day, the big sliding doors were opened and the one on duty did all eight grades’ lessons for the day.

The best time of the week was on Friday afternoon.  The big sliding doors were pushed back and we were all one room.  We had “club meeting” on Friday afternoons.  Mrs. Travelstead played the piano.  She’d always start with “Hail, hail the gang’s all here. . .”   And we all knew all the words. 
  
Then she had a little brown song book:



It was an ‘educational edition’ per the front cover.  This ALL-AMERICAN SONG BOOK was published as “A Community song book, especially for schools, homes, clubs and community singing.” We sort of had art and music combined while we were having ‘club meeting.’  We also made things and we played games.  Games that had questions and answers and such.


Row, Row, Row Your Boat was always sung in rounds.  Mrs. Travelstead would divide us into two or three groups.  One group would start the song.  Then the second group would come in with the first words, Row, Row, Row when the first group got to the Gently. . .   The third group would start Row, Row, Row when the second group got to Gently . . .  The first group would be on Merrily, Merrily, Merrily. . .  We had three groups singing the same song but, well, it was interesting.  You might wonder what we learned from that, but I’m sure we learned something.  (Discipline, timing, working together, getting it done. . . . )

I guess I had a pretty obvious interest in the music part of club meeting.  Mrs. Travelstead understood when I said I’d like to learn to play that piano.  I think it was seventh grade.  She talked to my mother and volunteered to give me piano lessons at school once a week for thirty minutes.  But, I would have to practice.  And I had no piano to practice at home.  The closest piano was that old upright across the field and across the road in the big room at Bandyville School.  Uncle Paul Youngblood, Pop’s brother-in-law, was the janitor at Bandyville School.  Uncle Paul volunteered that he could do his work in the basement every day when school was over.  That way I’d be able to stay after school and practice upstairs.  Then Uncle Paul would clean upstairs after I was done.  So Mom said, “Okay” and that if I would learn to play the piano that she’d find a way to buy me one.  Mom worked at Smoler’s Dress Factory in the repair department.  

So Mrs. Travelstead did what she said and I did study the music and learn to read some and play on the keys. And Uncle Paul did what he said he would do, too.  And by the end of eighth grade I was playing some simple songs. 

After graduation, Mom took me into town to Mrs. Yuill’s Baldwin Piano and Organ Studio.  She asked about getting me signed up for piano lessons.  Mrs. Yuill opened the store on 111 West Cherry St in Herrin in 1937.  She had pianos and organs and lots of music books and sheet music on the racks.  She had studied at SIU and was a music teacher, a business owner/manager and she also composed music. 

I thought Mrs. Yuill’s was the neatest place I’d ever been.  You can see the two doors with windows on the back wall in a 1956 photo below.  The door on the left was my class room.  And that piano just behind the second grand is called an Acrosonic spinet piano.  (Just FYI and important to know.)  Oh, see the guitar, she sold guitars too.

http://www.baldwinofherrin.com/about-us/

So, at the time, all her piano teachers were booked up.  Mom agreed to let me learn from Mr. Fred Sears who came over from Carterville to teach guitar at Mrs. Yuill’s.  She said Mr. Sears could teach me how to read music and play the piano even though he was a guitar man, so to speak.  So he did.  I had a regular Grade 1 Piano learner’s book. (I can’t show you a picture of it because I gave it to a kid I knew who wanted to take piano lessons.)  Mr. Sears taught me how to read the upper and lower music notes and play them as written.  AND then I had a Mr. Sears wire bound book.  He’d write out the songs and as I learned them, he would write in some more.  This is what it looked like.


Hard to see but it says Doris Grant, RR1 Box 543, Herrin, Illinois.  It’s come apart at the wire as I have kept it and used it all my life.
Here’s what one of my first songs looked like.  Yeah!  A Guitar Boogie.


Learned that.  Reading melody on the treble and filling in with left hand chords.  Guitar chords on the piano sounded pretty decent.  Notice across the bottom, another version of the Guitar Boogie.  After I learned the first version, I had to learn to play it all the way through according to the version at the bottom.  

What I learned there was rhythm, the importance of keeping the beat.  Hardest lesson is when you make a mistake; you better just keep on going.  If you think you can go back and fix it, you are already out of rhythm.  (That might be a lesson for life too.  Huh?)  

Then we get on to the next one.  Huh, real Boogie Woogie.  This one’s Number One.  Boogie Woogie #1.

Then there’s #2



Now that is some serious Boogie. . . 

By Christmas of my Freshman year in high school, Mom had saved up the money to buy the piano.  It was a Baldwin Acrosonic Spinet piano in fruitwood.  I don’t know how she did it.  But she did what she said, too.  


And Christmas found me looking like this. 



The writing on this photo is two of the songs I’d learned.  

The first was a popular Johnny Cash version.  See the words below:


The other is an old bluegrass gospel favorite done by the Louvin Brothers and later by Connie Smith:



So I learned to play the piano.  I also learned to play the organ and eventually had my own Baldwin organ.



I also had a keyboard.

That fantastic old upright against the wall belonged to Maud Hawn in Fudgetown.  Burl (Mr. Hawn) told me they had it shipped from Chicago on the train and got it off the train by Mr. Harris’s which was where the railroad crosses what is now Stotlar Road on the east side of Bandyville.  How I got Maud’s piano is another story, but it had the most fabulous sound board and I loved it almost as much as my spinet.

Mrs. Flossine Carlisle was my friend Clara’s mother.  She was another very influential person in my life.  I called her, Mommie Carlisle.  She had a beautiful picture of a young woman playing a piano always hanging in her living room above her piano.  I loved that picture.  So when Gary and I decided to remodel and move to his Christopher house, I went ebay shopping and came up with a print I liked.  I got it matted and framed and hung in the newly redone living room at Christopher in 2005.


I’ve never felt that I'm a ‘born’ piano player.  I was actually ‘born’ to be a nurse and God helped me be/do that first of all.  But I love music and I learned to play.  I also tried the accordion, the harmonica and a guitar, but I’d better stick to pianos and organs.  However, I am still thinking about a set of drums.  The most exciting concert I ever attended was at the Atlanta Georgia Symphony and it was all based on percussion.  I’ve been blessed to play at weddings, funerals, nursing homes and in almost every church I’ve ever been.  At our Christopher church I had a young girls choir group.  What fun, what blessings !  I love playing piano with others on guitars and drums.

My greatest blessing is to be able to provide music in His worship service for congregational singing or a special song or during prayer time or just whatever.  

I know I’m not the best.  I’ve heard lots of musicians who are way better than me.  I also know that all He expects of me is that I do my best, and He will always bless it.  

I guess you could say, “I saw a man and He set me free.”

I’m so glad God gave us music.  

I’m so glad He did what He did on the fifth day.  

I’m looking forward to the future. 

♫  ♫  ♫  ♫  ♫  ♫  ♫  ♫  ♫

I think there might be a harp for me to play over there.

Copyright - 2014 - Doris Grant Frey

November 25, 2014

Native American Heritage Month November 2014


Just some thoughts from The Iris Garden to honor my friends who know their roots, who honor me with their special friendship.  Native American Indians are loyal friends.
 

     The eagle was considered a sacred bird by most Native Americans.  An Eagle Dance was performed.  Only the bravest warriors and those most learned of the sacred ordinances were presented the feathers of the eagle. 
(Gary Frey loved eagles.  This is one from his collection.)
 

 
 
The Cherokee Blessing:   American Indians revered the Great Spirit, who presided over all things and created the Earth. The Great Spirit is said to be omnipotent, omnipresent, and omniscient and was often called Apportioner and Creator, the maker of all things and the one who lives above. 
 
(I’ve had this “Cherokee Blessing” so long I do not recall where I got it.) 
 
 
 
The Indian Maiden:  The Cherokee nation had a 'maternal' society.  The women sat on clan councils and oversaw tribal functions.  Kinship and tribal roots followed the mother’s family, not the father.   The role of “Beloved Woman” was the highest one could attain.  The Cherokee woman owned the house and the furnishings.  She managed everything while the man hunted.  If she wanted a ‘divorce’, she sat his clothes and belongings outside the door and was done with him. 
 
(I got this fine maiden at a crafts festival and I have named her 'Mourning Dove'.)
 

 
Cherokee Map 1900:  Shows the loss of Cherokee land from the original ownership in the blue, through the end of the Revolution to the final land cessation.
 
Trail of Tears Map:  In 1838–1839 the Cherokee were forced to move west to ‘designated’ Indian Territory in Oklahoma.  The route is known as the 'Trial of Tears'.  It was also called by the Cherokee, ‘The Trail Where They Cried’.  Over 800 miles through North Carolina, Tennessee, Alabama, Georgia, Kentucky, Illinois, Missouri, Arkansas, to Oklahoma, they suffered from disease, exposure and starvation.  Approximately 16,000 began the Trail and as many as 4,000 died.  Many of these deaths were due to the “worst winter in one hundred years”(encampment 1838-1839) in Southern Illinois.
 
Quligi: (Kwe – lee – gee) My friend Quligi is a Cherokee descendant.  He attends powwows and in this photo is performing the Southern Straight Dance.  There are eight styles of American Indian Powwow Dances, four for men, and four for women.  The Southern Straight Dance represents history after colonization in which the man wears a cloth ribbon shirt.  Often called ‘The Teacher’ or ‘Grandfather’s Dance’, the movements indicate teaching a younger male how to track.
 
 
Gary’s Quilt:  He never asked for anything beyond cherry pie.  One day he came home from work at Walmart and had a piece of fabric in his hand.  In fabrics and crafts they often displayed a quilt panel or stretches of fabric on the wall.  They had changed out the display that day and he gave a donation to the Children’s Miracle Network for his pick off the wall.  He handed the fabric to me and said, “I want you to make me a quilt.”
 
 
The Spirit Plague and my Cherokee wish for you.
 
Good resources: 
 Copyright - 2014 - Doris Grant Frey